Why am I still obsessed, its driving me crazy!!?
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I broke up with my ex nearly 3 years ago. It was a pretty bad break up I’d be willing to bet it was the worst ever. We had been together for 3 years and were living together. We had this HUGE fight one night and he didn’t come home. I couldn’t get in contact with him and two days later he told me he had moved to Sydney and could I send his stuff up (we lived in Melbourne). So we broke up and I was hurt but I know he wasn’t a good guy so I was trying to get over it. Then a couple of weeks later I got collection letters from Vodafone and the bank, he had run up debt in my name up to nearly $ 6000. Then I found out that he had been cheating on me and was planning to move back to Melbourne to live with this girl. I have since paid off the loan as there was nothing the police could do about, there was no point going to court because I know he doesn’t have the money and I would just end up spending up to $ 1000 for the court to say yes he owe you this money but he has no money so there for can’t pay you.
So now nearly 3 years later I am engaged to the most woulderful man I have ever met who spoils me, buys me presents all the time and takes me on romantic holidays. I am happier than I have ever been. The only thing is I am obsessed in knowing what my ex is doing. He never changed his email passwords so I constantly check his mail. It’s not because I want him back, because the thought of him touching me makes me want to puke. He married this other girl and they have a child. I also know there are in a really bad financial struggle and that makes me really happy. I find that I am in a really good mood when I can see another final demand in his email. I hate this feeling but I don’t know how to get over it.
My partner doesn’t know I do this and I feel I am being unfaithful to him by doing this. I know I am over my ex I am just not over what he did to me. I feel like I had no closure that he just got away with it. Has anyone else been in this situation who can give me some advice on how to put this all behind me…..sorry it’s so long
Best answer:
Answer by Bobby Brady
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to see justice served. He robbed you and betrayed your trust. It would be strange if that DIDN’T bother you.
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